I guess it was only a matter of time for the teenage angst to arrive. The youngest son (YS) returned yesterday, and while the oldest son was along for the ride, he did not stay. I was deeply disappointed by his decision, but did not let it show. We had a normal conversation and I assured him that I was not angry with him. I’m really not angry. Not anymore anyway. I did; however, let him know that I did not agree with his decision.
But my main problem is with the ex. He’s the reason the OS did not return. And I gave him a piece of my mind during their short visit. I informed him of something that, I’m sure, did not cross his tiny, pea brain and that is the fact that the shoe could very well be on the other foot. We could spring forward a year or two and one of the boys could decide not to visit their father in lieu of hanging out with their friends or a girlfriend. In that instance I am sure that the ex would expect me to encourage said boy that the right thing to do would be to visit their father. I’m quite sure he would not want me to simply support said boy’s right to stay here with friends or girlfriends.
I told the ex what I thought and he did not disagree. But he probably wasn’t really listening either. I don’t expect to influence him in any positive way, as he is too idiotic and too selfish to listen. To him, the OS’s decision to stay was a victory of sorts. While I believe it was a simple matter of the OS wishing to spend more time with his father coupled with the desire to exercise his newly found freedom by making his own decision, I’m sure that in the ex’s eyes it was a matter of the OS choosing the ex’s home instead of our home.
The ex thinks he’s won and I will let him have his little victory. I’m just not entirely sure that spending time with a moody teenager makes you a “winner.”
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