A while back I mentioned that we had some concerns about the Boss’s Boss now that the Captain has jumped ship. While the Captain was absent and distracted much of the time, he was never rude or mean either in private or amongst other team or department members. And while he seemed to lose focus of his job, he always had a way with words and communicated with tact and skill. Even at the end.
Now it seems that the Boss’s Boss, or BB for short, has an affinity for putting his own team members on the spot during inter-department meetings. He has a way with sharp words and cuttingly rude remarks, some of which were directed at me in a meeting today.
Now, it would be one thing if he was pointing out an error I made, even though I feel that it should probably be handled privately; however, he was pointing out an error that I did not make. And, as it turns out, it wasn’t even an error. I realized this afterwards because I was too stunned during the meeting to realize anything other than how to work damage control to save face.
A couple of hours after the meeting, I confronted him with the facts and made him aware that I did not agree with his methods. I was polite but direct. He tried to defend his actions, but I think he understood where I was coming from and I think he knew he was wrong. But he did not admit it.
Why is “I’m sorry” so difficult for some people to say? And why are those people primarily men? And why do women apologize at the drop of the hat? The first person with the answer or solution to these questions gets a prize.
Those frustrating questions, and more, are buzzing around my mind.
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